How many of us are guilty of getting onto Facebook, Twitter, Instagram or any other social network to only say “I wish my life was as fun/successful/happy as (insert person)”. It’s in our nature to benchmark ourselves on our progress in comparison to others because we’ve had it done to us all our lives! What is Social Comparison? From PsychologyToday.com: Social comparison theory states that we determine our own social and personal worth based on how we stack up against others. As a result, we are constantly making self and other evaluations across a variety of domains (for example, attractiveness, wealth, intelligence, and success). Advertisements
I’m a firm believer in the theories (if there are any) that certain physical or mental weaknesses aren’t just something that can be inhibiting but also something that allows the person to do things that those who do not have them can’t do. It is a special gift. What is OCPD? According to the opening paragraph of Wikipedia: Obsessive–compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a pervasive pattern of preoccupation with orderliness, perfectionism, excessive attention to details, mental and interpersonal control, and a need for power over one’s environment, at the expense of flexibility, openness, and efficiency.
I think the stage for me to yearn for the flashy hustle and bustle associated with viewing the fireworks or god forbid wanting to squeeze into a dress and heels to go to a nightclub is over. I no longer see the appeal of it because I’d rather spend my new year creating a sort of symbolic path to follow for the year. My new year was spent with a group of my closest friends under the moonlight with some snacks on a quaint beach listening to the sound of the waves come onto the shore. I guess I’d like my whole year to be like this – so simple yet heartwarming.